Psychologists say self-discipline is the way to success because the initiative and focus of a self-motivated person is the kind of persistence every team needs.
As we head back into socialising, I thought I’d reflect on my love for meeting new people and how I balance that with my drive to succeed.
I love meeting new people, learning from others and networking.
I appreciate personal stories and exploring perspectives on things as much as I enjoy guiding and advising.
However, on way too many occasions, I’ve listened to people suffering from mental illnesses and mood disorders give long-winded explanations of why things aren’t the way they want.
I listen to worries and concerns which overwhelm them.
When we lack purpose and passion we do get easily distracted with people-pleasing, losing ourselves in a poor relationship, or the wrong crowd. Forgive me if I sound like your mum or dad here, but these are words of wisdom.
When we are seeking an escape we can easily get caught up in distractions which perpetuate cycles of worry, depression and anxiety.
What part does self-discipline play in this?
What I am trying to say here is that self-discipline and hard work is even more difficult in these emotional and unpredictable times. Your circle of friends are not only the average of your success, it will be the determinant of your ability to navigate through uncertainty. Your relationships are not only pillars of support, they mark the boundaries of your passion for work and play. Your support network should inspire you and encourage you to go after your dreams and aspirations. The thing is we are responsible for the people we choose to keep close to us.
Fun and work-life balance aids self discipline.
If we don’t reward ourselves for our efforts we would soon lose the zeal to follow through and stick to the plans and targets we have set in place. It is also important to do fun and creative things that inspire you to develop a new sense of who you are and what you are capable of.
I am encouraging you to explore the freedom of self expression in activities interests outside of what you do for work. I am also suggesting that you may have to move well out of your comfort here and seek guidance and support to help you overcome the hurdle of being a novice.
Target-driven people lack personality and resilience
So many people have lost their minds and self-worth when they face major transitions. For instance, when they lose a job or a relationship, they take it personally, because their accomplishments and achievements define who they are.
It is also explains why people get bored with their careers and look for ways to create excitement through travel or transitions like migrating.
Dream big and keep the dream alive
A huge aspect of my success was not only working hard but dreaming big. We often neglect the right side of our brain, the creative, delusional and artistic visionary that would get lost in imagining a better place or life. It is the part of our brain that is detached from our conditioning and cautionary narrow-minded world of nots and cannots.
You know what amazes me most in this world of psychology is the research that proves we can rewire our brain and change our habits. According to the recent studies it takes 66 days to change our habits. As long as we understand why we seek out specific engagements, time wasters or distractions, the easier it will be to change direction and develop a more purposeful activity.
Are we all goal-diggers on some level?
Most self motivated people are driven by an innate desire, a passion or love for doing something so much they would lose themselves in it. It makes me think of myself as a teen reading the medical encyclopaedias my grandmother left behind. I didn’t have much more to read so I asked to borrow books from the people I knew.
My self discipline got a lot stronger when my passion for psychology and human behaviour found no end with my academic insights, accomplishments and the demand to navigate change and uncertainty in my personal life. The more I learnt, the more I wanted to know. It is a thirst for knowledge in this industry.
It is bigger than a title
More than anything else I wanted to be an example to other young Caribbean women who had humble beginnings and big dreams of helping others. The field of clinical psychology is not only competitive, it is demanding and challenging as a migrant. Our faith in our dreams can be put to the test in our journey to success, and what we will come to realise is that the pain of hard work is all part of it.
As a well-balanced psychologist who has faced burn-out and the loss of passion to do clinical work, I’d say it is important to have another outlet for your self-expression and exploration. I love analysing and guiding other people through emotional setbacks and life transitions but emotional labour is hard work.
I think health – care professionals are in high demand for many reasons, mainly because we live in such a goal-driven, materialistic and superficial world filled with more and more demands and unpredictability.
I hope exploring this topic of self discipline with me can assist you during your COVID19 recovery and return to work.
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Thanks for reading.